The most difficult thing about parenting
Understanding the difference between trauma and disappointment

Conflict occurs between all children and their parents. Because the modern American family takes pride in a certain level of nurturing, many people come to parenting hopeful that they can anticipate and provide for their children’s needs sufficiently well and thus, avoid any and all significant disappointments or conflicts.

A nurturing parent’s commitment to avoiding conflict and their fear of trauma is unnecessary and paralyzing. It is unnecessary because conflict is a healthy, normal, and essential part of life.

Conflict helps define acceptable choices for a child as he or she develops a sense of self.

Conflict is paralyzing because it creates a tremendous burden of guilt on any parent who tries to establish reasonable limits.

To many, the word conflict generates visions of anger, loud voices, and defiant behavior. In its most simple terms, however, conflict is a difference of ideas that seems unresolvable.



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If, in resolving a conflict, the parent’s stance is reasonable, and the child is simply upset at not having things his way, the cry of the child is one of disappointment, not trauma.

  1. Traumas are generated by unreasonable, terrible events that leave the child not only disappointed, but damaged.
  2. Disappointments are temporary, with no harm done.
  3. Traumas force children to fundamentally reconsider whether the world is a trusting place, often with long-term consequences.
  4. Disappointments are caused by reasonable limit-setting.
  5. Traumas are caused by unreasonable harm.

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The Who’s the Boss Parenting Academy will help you learn the difference between trauma and disappointment. Our philosophy helps good parents become great by using online learning courses, books, and teleconsulting.

Our core competencies cover the six-most common child-parent conflicts.

• Sleep
• Food
• Discipline
• Potty Mastery
• Child Care Dilemmas
• Sibling Rivalry

Who’s the Boss? is not an applied theory, but an organic, working philosophy that has grown out of our experiences working with more than 10,000 families in solving these challenges.

Parenting problems happen whenever your child initiates them. The advantage of the Who’s the Boss? Parenting Academy is that you can access the solutions right at the moment you need them. Because our philosophy is based on 10,000 family interactions, you can be certain that what you’ll learn from the academy is based on success, not simply on what’s hot or what seems like a good idea. Simply put, the solutions we offer work more than 99% of the time.


The skills you learn in each Who’s The Boss Parenting Academy course work effectively in virtually every situation you and your child will encounter.

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